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n fact, we are all managers
in this drama of life. This is
a wonderful method used in
management of crisis. It is also
an interventional psychol-
ogy method. We are all different,
different in ideas, different in un-
derstanding things, some are global
icons, some are at the bottom of the
ladder, and some are social outcast.
Some have no voice in the society
because they are the peripheries with
no trappings of authority. Some are
those who sleep under the bridge
and immediately the red light shows,
they rush to you for help with a look
very offensive. How do you manage
them? They do not belong to your
class and how do you make them
feel as some bodies? How do you
manage their lack of mannerisms
and politeness when they want you
to help them?
In any human relationship, there
must be “give and take”. There must
be a way of lowering your ivory
tower so that people can meet you
there to unveil to you how life treats
them, how they have been living in
an island of misery and how lack of
contact with professionals or those
who have the capacity of solving
their problems ended in bureaucracy
and resulted to depersonalization of
the person in need of help. Human
beings are very complex and we
must learn to manage them for the
good of the world. Managing each
other is a sign that we want to grow
together to make a statement in the
neighborhood and even in the world.
Each and every one of us is unique
and we can use our uniqueness to
confront the world of indifference,
the world that is xenophobic, the
world that is afraid to create a space
for others, the world that build walls
and not bridges.
When we manage each other and
interact deeply we discover the rich-
ness in each person. The fear of each
other is gone. But when we push
people to a certain geographic area
and allow them to rot, it becomes in-
human and does not make even eco-
nomic sense. Man is rich in quality
and when he interacts with the other
man the universe is benefitted. The
rich ideas that will come out of them
will shock the doubting Thomases.
Managing each other for a construc-
tive future is the watchword. We
have lost a lot for not knowing how
to manage ourselves. In managing
ourselves, we can discover the good
things in each person that others see
as bad and not useful to the country.
When we do not communicate to
each other, how can we find those
vital values in them? Sometimes our
culture socializes us to be that kind
of person that maintains critical dis-
tance from our fellow human beings.
Culture is a social construct and
not divine. We cannot over estimate
God in our myopic way of thinking.
Stereotypes and how culture classi-
fies people is not the proper way of
classifying people.
Nigeria should manage people
of different ideological affiliations
even if what they are doing does not
meet Nigeria’s expectations. This is
what makes a genuine humanity. We
should not pursue those who don’t
agree with us to death.
We need to overcome the social
stigma that does not allow us to
enter into interpersonal communi-
cation with each other and manage
each other even though we come
from different backgrounds. The
universe is unfolding. It is when we
can manage each other and make
use of our usefulness that we can
have visibility in the community and
country at large. If we deny people
visibility, it can affect our develop-
ment. When you manage me and
I manage you, we can loom high
in the sky. If you manage me and
I manage you and what comes in
our relationship will be our shared
experiences which can make both
of us visible. And when we have
many visible people in the world,
we become a part of God’s creation.
We become a sort of empowerment
to the world. There should not be a
disconnection. Disconnection is lack
of managing each other.
